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Relationship Tip #243: Break Ups? Nah,Gaining XP

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So I’m one of those firm believers of the cliche phrase “It’s better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.” I’ve been on both ends of a break up; getting set free and having to set others free. (notice the phrase “setting free” rather than “dumped”) Frankly, both ends suck horribly because you don’t want either to happen, but both parties know that not much can be done about it if they’ve tried.

(Now if the other party is a total bitch to you, then you’re probably walking on sunshine ready to drop their ass like a Hatsune Miku mixtape.)


As I was saaaaying, I tend to think of each relationship as gaining experience points. Think about it, can you think of a noticeable difference between yourself in your first relationship vs you in your most recent one? Hell, if this IS your first relationship, think about all the things you’re learning about yourself, the person you’re dating, what makes it all work, positives, and negatives. Even what I said the other day about not making someone the center of your universe could be learned during these stages. Sure, you could read about these relationship tips in Cosmo mags or on Mistress Lexxi’s page, but you’d never know about these things without experiencing them for yourself! 

So what’s the point here? Let’s say you’re in a relationship and you and your partner have tried everything to keep each other satisfied, but in the end you two end up not really being the love of each others lives. When it’s over, do you regress back to your previous naive stage or do you move forward with new knowledge? Think of it as you and your ex-other half packing mental suitcases with facts, preferences, red flags, ect. You’re packing your inventory with concepts that will boost your character’s XP! 

So do NOT say “I just got dumped” or “I dumped my girl/guy”. Say “We both just leveled up!” 

(image source: http://culturewaves.net/2011/06/june-pov/)

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